We are halfway through the Rauhnächte, the 12 nights after the end of the Winter Solstice (more about the correct calculation in the first article). We are still working on taking stock and cleansing what’s no longer needed.
Tonight is family night.
Last night, we worked on our best friends, how our relationships with them have changed in the past year, and whether or not they should be brought over to the next 12 months cycle. Normally, I would say that shouldn’t be a question — after all best friends are best friends for a reason — but I have seen the strangest (and saddest) things happen in this respect during the current pestilence.
And thus, tonight we do the same with family. That might be even harder. You can choose your partner, and with them more or less their family. But your own? Well, you can’t choose who they are, and what they are to you, but you can certainly choose if you want to be in contact with them.
Hopefully your family situation is such that sticking with them is a no-brainer, but I see situations all the time where the only healthy and safe course of action is a clear and hard break. I am especially saying that to all you folks out there who might feel guilty for breaking with (a part of) your family even though you know that your mental, physical, and spiritual health is in danger if you didn’t
Never ever feel guilty or ashamed for saving your own life. That is also part of self-care.
Once again, take your favorite divination tool, and start asking questions. Some relationships may be on autopilot and don’t really need any querying, and if time is scarce, I would recommend concentrating on those family members where a deeper dive is warranted.
So ask the Ogham, Tarot cards, or runes what, relative to (partner, mother, father, any grandparent, uncle, aunt, child, niece, nephew etc. etc.) needs to be
- Cleared up?
- Forgiven (both you and by you)?
- Let go of?
- Blessed?
- Remembered as a lesson?
Do that for each family member you feel that this is needed for. It may take a while.
Once you are through with all of them, feel free to go berserk with the amount of incense you burn without harming yourself and others (particularly pets), walk through your house with the intent to cleanse and get rid of everything that in this practicum was revealed and needs to be moved out and smoke it all out.
More magical Alpine traditions can be found in my book “Mountain Magic”, available at lulu.com (preferred) and distributers such as amazon.com
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